3 steps jeevan saathee ka chayan (choose life partner) - Relationship

Step - 1 jeevan saathee ka chayan – Voh insaan  jisake saath aap apne life  ka pura din bitaana chaahate hain – Aapake dwaara life mein lie jaane vaale sabase strong decision mein se ek hai. Aise insaan ke saath poora jeevan bitaana jise aap pyar karte hon, magar sahee insaan ka talaash aur chunna bhee bahut bada kaam hai. saubhaagy yah hai ki bhout saare log is anubhav se gujarte hain, aap akele nahi hain, US mein ve log jinhonne  kavi shaddi nahi kiya hai aur kavi shaddi  nahi karna chaahate hain. Aise insaan jo aapke lie correct ho, uske sambandh mein acche soch rakh kar, use khojane ka gambheer prayas kar aur apne sambandh mein change la kar aap bhee apne life kisee aise ke saath bita sakate hain, jise aap pyar karte hon

1 Aap aapne baare main apna view clear rakhe (Have an accurate view of yourself):-Life partner khojane kee talaash “aap” se hee shuroo hote hai. ye jaanane ke lie ki aapke lie koun sahi life partner hoga, aapko aache se ye jaanana hoga ki aap kaun hain. Apko apne pasand aur naapasand jaana hoga, apne tallent aur kamiyaan ko jaanana hoga. ye jaanana hoga ki aap apne life se, aur life partner se kya chaahate hain. Khud se emaandaar rahiye. agar aapko khud pr bharosa nahi hai, to apane friends se apne baare main baat kriye or puchiye apne baare main.  

·      sabse  bada  baat  yah  hai  ki, sabhee  kamiyon  ke  saath  bhee, “app apne app se pyar kariye”. agar aap apne  aap se pyar  nahi    kar sakate  hain to doosare se  pyar  kasy aspect  kar sakate hain. islie aage badhne se pahale,aap khud se pyar karna sekhee.

2 apne jeevan ke lakshy nirdhaarit kar len: do insaan, jo apne  life ek saath bitaane  ja rahe hon, unke lie jeevan ke lagbhag  har decision  mein ek jaisee sooch rakhena zaruri hai. do log chaahe baki sabhee maamalon mein alag hon,lakin tab bhee jeevan ke mahatvapoorn or aise muddon main  jin par samajhauta nahin kiya ja sakata, par aap in sab ke sambandh mein sahi  eemaandaar rahie – khud se jhooth bolne ke chakkar aap apna relation khud se he kharab kr lengy.kisi ke  saath jeevan betane se phele aap Khud se kuch chizon pr zauri baateen  soch le.  

·      kya main bachche chaahata hoon?

·      main kahaan rahana chaahata hoon?

·      kya main kaam karna chahata hoon ya ghar sambhaalana (ya donon)?

·      apane jeevan mein main kya haasil karana chaahata hoon?

·      main kis tarike se apne  jeevan bitana chaahata hoon?.

    3 apne pichhale relation ke experience ke aadhaar par faisla len: Agar aapko yah decision lene mein dikkat ho raha hai to aap apne life partner  mein kya dekhna chaahate hain ya aap apne jeevan se kya chaahate hain, to apane pichhale sambandhon ke baare mein sochen. apane sambandhon mein jaane – anajaane main, jo vikalp aap chunate hain, ve aapko yah suraag dene mein madad kar sakate hain ki aap apane life partner mein kya dekhna chaahate hain .  

·      aapako apane saathee kee kya cheez pasand thee?

·      apane saathee ke saath saath, kya karane mein aapako sabase zyaada maza aata tha?

·      aapka, apne saathee se matbhed kis baat par hota tha?

·      aap apne saathee kee kiss baat aap ladai krte thai?

·      aapka saathee aapkee kiss baat par ladai krta thai?

·      Relationship kasy khatam hua?

    4 .Relation ke suruwaat main bhout saare questions poochhiye: jab aap milate hain aur ek new insaan ko date  karna shuroo karate hain to unse, unke baare mein baaten karie. unse poochhie ki ve saathee mein kya pasand karenge, unke jeevan ke lakshy kya hain, aur unkee sapne or life mai  kya goal  hain? Kya pata apke or jise date kr rhy hain unke saath apka vichaar, ruchiyaan, drshtikon, aur yahaan tak tak ki khaane peena ka tarika v  ek jyse hon , isalie app sb in sab  ke baare mein  poochhane se hichakichaie mat!

•         Aapko apke partner k baare her chizz puchna chaheye jaise ki, kya ve                  dhoomrapaan karate hain, sharaab peete hain ya drags lete hain? kya use kisi prakar ka zimaari hain? App ye saare chizeye puche or saath he ye v puchey ki kya unko apna peshaa badalna to aap unka saath de.
•       vaise to, pahalee date par, is tarah ke question poochhana koi dikaat “nahin” hai. bahut jaldee, atyant vyaktigat prashn poochhana, bahut ubaoo ho sakata hai aur kisee ke saath aapake sambandh banaane ke prayaas ke lie ghaatak bhee. magar is prakaar ke jeevan shailee sambandhee prashno ke uttar sambhavata aapako sambandhon ke pahle 4 months ke andar jaan hee lene chaahie.